Self belief is our concept and vision of ourselves. It’s what we believe we are, what we are capable of and what we think others think about us.
In order to gain more self belief, you can follow these 5 easy steps:
Step 1: Identify what you currently believe about yourself. Ask yourself and fill in the blank “I am ____”. From here you can begin to think about other areas of your personality. Look at the things you are having difficulty with, not what you think you should be. Be honest. Reveal your truth. How does lack of self belief express itself through you?
Step 2: Once you identify limiting beliefs you hold about yourself, you can then dismantle them. A belief is only a thought you’ve accepted 100% at an emotional level. It doesn’t have to be true. Ask yourself: “How do I know this is 100% true?” So, what would happen if you didn’t believe that? What are you afraid would happen to you if you let that limiting belief go? What does holding onto this limiting belief cost you? This may bring up some uncomfortable emotions. Let that be okay. Acknowledge the feeling and give yourself permission to feel it so you can release it.
Step 3: Reverse the belief by making it the opposite of what it is. For example: “I have no confidence” can be “I am confident and capable.” Make the opposite image bright, vivid like a movie in your imagination – see yourself doing what you want, the way you want, where you want and what that means about you. Then step inside this image so you can look through the eyes of you. Feel how good it feels, notice what you believe about yourself. Make it strong, vivid, compelling.
Step 4: Find someone you look up to — that you admire. That if you had what they had, you know you could believe in yourself. Write down their attributes: How do they hold themselves? How is their body language? How do they speak and interact with others? What do they believe about themselves? Now imagine this person doing what they do, how they do it and where they do it. Notice all the details. Step right inside so you can feel how they feel, notice what they believe about themselves. Make it strong, vivid, compelling.
Step 5: With your new statement for what you want to believe. Your new compelling imagery of yourself and the person you would like to model, bring these things together in you imagination. Play around with this, you can imagine your head at first instance on their body or their head on yours – have fun it’s your imagination! Merge these two images together and make a compelling, vivid movie of this new you, feeling great, happy and really believing in yourself. Play this again and again and notice how the thoughts begin to become something you know is true about you.
If you’d like help with letting go of limiting beliefs and developing resourceful ones that really give you the experience of life you want, please contact Brenda Bentley on 01527 853 424 or 0794 880 1229.